September is PCOS Awareness Month!!


PCOS (Polycystic Ovarian Syndrome) is something that cannot be cured, despite some claims, although symptoms can be improved and managed (for some) with medication, exercise and other lifestyle changes. It is a hormonal condition that manifests itself differently in each person. PCOS is very common and impacts how ovaries function.

Symptoms of PCOS can vary from person to person and no two people are often suffering the exact same symptoms. Some symptoms include;

  • Weight gain,
  • Difficulty losing weight,
  • Irregular periods or no periods,
  • Thinning hair,
  • Acne,
  • Excessive hair growth,
  • Fertility issues,
  • Miscarriages,
  • Cysts that burst and cause pain or internal bleeding,
  • Mood changes,
  • Depression,
  • Bloating,

These are just some of the symptoms. Many Healthcare Professionals will suggest weight loss will solve all problems, however for those that suffer with PCOS, we know that this is often very difficult and untrue.

PCOS puts a person at a higher risk of;

  • Type 2 Diabetes,
  • High blood pressure,
  • High cholesterol,
  • (High blood pressure and cholesterol can also lead to strokes or heart disease,)
  • Sleep apnoea,
  • Depression,
  • Endometrial Cancer.

September is PCOS awareness month and social media will see an increase in posts about this life changing syndrome. I will be uploading more posts about how PCOS impacts my life, however this post is a very basic, introduction to PCOS.

Please message me if you have questions and I will do my best to help you.

22-November-2015 – One Secret I wish to tell others.

What’s one secret or truth you wish you could tell others about your experience with disability, disease or illness?

Published on The Mighty :

The media write about Izzy Judd, Victoria Beckham and Jools Oliver. One thing these three celebrities have in common is PCOS, or Polycystic Ovarian Syndrome.
‘Do you have trouble getting pregnant, adult acne, is your hair falling out, irregular periods, weight gain or excessive hair growth?’
These are things people look for when seeking a PCOS diagnosis, however nobody truly understands what this diagnosis means.
A few of my relatives and friends are aware of my PCOS, but the details of this condition remain a secret.
In no way am I saying that PCOS is worse than any other condition out there, but it takes its’ toll not only physically but mentally. It is life changing in its’ own right.
Nobody sees my daily struggle with this condition that has plagued me for almost 10 years.
Nobody watches me as I shave my face daily, inspecting for new dark hairs, ingrown hairs or scars, wishing that I was somebody else and that this would all end. Because let’s face it we all hate something about ourselves and we all strive for perfection.
People I have worked with in the past, you have seen my ‘Poker Face’ when I am trying to lift someone more than my weight up their stairs getting them home from hospital, or grasped my stomach when doing patient observations, pretending I have lost my pen (again). It isn’t that I am unable to lift weight or that I am clumsy and lose my pen, secretly I am in agony with unovulated eggs and cysts in my ovaries, enduring daily pelvic pain that can come with this condition.
The hospital ultrasound technician, who was looking for my appendix and ovaries on one hospital admission, who then thought they were clever claiming I had “too much adipose tissue to see anything”. They obviously didn’t realise I understood fully what you meant and I held back my tears, avoiding any more embarrassment.
The Doctor that told me that I probably was pregnant but they weren’t sure because the Positive test on Friday and the heavy bleeding that followed prior to the appointment but it was “most likely I was pregnant”. How can you grieve for something so small that you didn’t know for sure existed in the first place.
The fertility Doctors that say I can’t have my IUI/IVF until my BMI IS 35/30 and that losing a couple of stone in 6 weeks ‘should be easy’. Are you kidding me! Yes it shouldn’t be that difficult but when you have insulin resistance and your body doesn’t like dieting it make things more difficult. The fact that I have to practically starve myself because the diets aren’t working (and this is not an excuse – I do my best and have been very successful so far) but it is never good enough for medical staff. Each day (not recommended) I stand on my scales hoping that the numbers have gone down. The same goes for my measuring each week.

scales Throughout my Weight Battle, it can only go down from here….and it has!!

At the age of 24 I have had to endure appointments, exams, scans, swabs and tests, not to mention seeing several different doctors. Half of which involve me being half naked suspended in front of a Doctor. I haven’t had a period for at least 9 months and now have to endure more medication to bring one on. Adding to the tablets that are about an inch long that I currently take three times a day.

The sad truth about PCOS is that there is no one cause, the theory is genetics plays a role however this is not proven. The effects are not just physical but they take a huge toll on a person’s mental health. Unfortunately PCOS can also cause other issues, gestational diabetes, premature delivery and miscarriages. Not to mention depression, anxiety, diabetes and sleep apnea. I scared my wife half to death once when I briefly stopped breathing during my sleep, thankfully it only happened once and has not happened since.
PCOS is actually quite common. The condition causes constant embarrassment, pain and fear. Fear that others will see the hairs on your face and comment about them or that the pain may finally mean that your colleagues are aware of the condition as your pain threshold gives in. Fear because you can hear others question why you are in the doctor’s office, why you are sat in maternity surrounded by pregnant women when you have a fat stomach but are there to see the fertility specialist. What really annoys me is that they choose to give the patients with fertility issues appointments in the maternity department. Talk about rubbing it in your face!!

Many suffer with PCOS, but not enough share their true secrets and fears surrounding the condition.

Trying to get healthy….

So I have been off work for about a month, in that time I have had few good days and several bad days, creeping into a depressive state; not experienced before.

Good days have included a house viewing and a mortgage application (successful but still attempting to find the perfect home – we saw one home but it had a mould issue and may have been too much work 😭)  The disapointment of knowing we wouldn’t be getting this in need of work dream home led to insomnia 🌞🌙🌞🌙🌞

Bad days have included, sleep, neglecting myself in forms of not brushing hair or eating, and just sleeping. I have deferred another University Module, but I have made positive changes and next “years” Uni (october 2017) I have chosen two modules that will replace the credits at level 2 I should be finishing now, but now these new ones will focus on Mental Health and get me where I want to be. 

I have made some positive steps in the last week, finally had my second referall telephone call from the primary mental health team….Why do they always ask ‘so tell me whats been going on’ Yh hello you have a referral letter telling you that and it is difficult to say it out loud. 😳😳 I don’t think they were expecting me to have so many issues and history of so many problems 😒

Went back to the GP and I am now on a new medication to try, After my hair problem from previous meds I had decided no more meds but the Primary Mental Health Care team made me realise that this is a part of me and if there is something that can reduce anxiety and panic then I should try it.

  • I want to smile,
  • I want to be happy,
  • I want to not worry,
  • I want to speak out and do talks and help speak out for those that need encouragement,
  • I want to inspire,
  • I want to have more confidence 
  • I just want to be happy……..

I have also been sent a self help book from the Team for anxiety – so I will blog on that once I have read it!

🤔 I do have some exciting news too, BUT for now it has to be kept under wraps as it only fuels gossip and I find people talk about me enough as it is; without fuelling their fire 🔥🔥 🤔


We are heading on Holidays soon, camping and driving each day, it is about time we travel the Country we live in – North Wales here we come!!

The First Time My Illness Brought Me to Tears.

I was 15 when I first realised my symptoms. I just put it down to the recent Eating Disorder Behaviour. Where I dropped from about 11 stone to just under 6 stone. Nobody noticed except my close friend noticed and I put weight back on to be 9 stone prior to having some teeth out; as I knew they would weigh me for the general anaesthetic. My periods were all over the place, mainly absent, and I was getting abdominal discomfort. I snuck to the Doctors one afternoon and Polycystic Ovarian Syndrome (PCOS) was mentioned, the Doctor ordered blood tests and they were done that week. In 2010 I had surgery to remove 2 cysts from the ovary but still had no true diagnosis of PCOS.The last few years has been scans, blood tests, exams and consultant visits. Now I’m 25, having been on Metformin for 4 years and now have an official diagnosis of PCOS. I believed I handled the condition pretty well, it affects quite a lot of women and it isn’t really talked much about. I have longed for my own family since I was 14, but wanted to finish my education first and get a job and do it when is sensible for me to do so. At 17, in my first relationship the discussion of children came up during that 3-year relationship, but it was clear the time was not right for my partner at the time, however for most of that time I stopped taking my contraceptive pill as it was making my symptoms worse, especially the weight gain.

I suffered a miscarriage during this time but never managed to conceive again.

That relationship ended and I was approached by a friend who agreed to help me conceive a child. Still no Luck. I met my wife in 2012, we married in 2014.

By 2012 I was seeing the consultant at the hospital and awaiting to go through fertility treatment to have children, even if I would have been on my own. This is my goal in life. The first time PCOS brought me to tears was when I went to see my consultant having lost over 50 inches off my whole body but my weight didn’t reflect that loss. My Consultant was unable to send me to the next stage of treatment, the IUI/IVF because my BMI was 34.4, the goal was under 35, but yet 34.4 was not enough it had to be 34. This is the first time my PCOS actually made me cry.

I coped with the surgery, the miscarriage and the daily challenges the condition brings me. But this one incident with the Doctor, where I am being denied my only chance of being a mother because I cannot get my weight down enough.

It isn’t like I’m not trying, I am. I have my bad days like everyone when it comes to Food but I thought I was doing really well following my Diet Plan. But I find my PCOS symptoms messes with my blood sugar and makes it even more difficult to lose weight.

I was told to come back in 6 months and if my weight wasn’t down I would be discharged from the department until my weight was down.

It hurts because If I could afford to go private I would and if I could get pregnant without the help of Doctors and treatment then I would.

But I cannot.

The one thing a woman’s body should do – Mine is unable to do.

And that hurts.

PCOS Diet Battle

So as always my weight has been up and down, so I decided to do a detox week.

Meals included (not in order)

Homemade Kebab with Sweet Potato and Carrot Fries

Watermelon and Yoghurt

Homemade Cottage Pie with Peas

Chicken Pizza (No Bread) With Sweet Potato Fries and Scrambled Egg with some Cheese

Beef with Rice Noodles and Carrot

After this week (we were naughty and had two takeaways, smaller than usual portions!)

This week resulted in a LOSS OF 2.5KG!!

I am so happy with this but cannot gain anything now, I need to get to 94kg by my hospital  appointment in July (letter just came through) for project baby!!

After this week I joined Slimming World and I am getting use to their system and trialing some food this week before starting gradually week by week to incorporate SW completely into my life!!

Plus I found a voucher for £35 off!!

I’m also starting to get my courage up enough to brave Youtube again, so keep an eye out for me!!

Healthy Food Shop

Diet Week one….here we go

OMG having visitors over resulted in a 1kg gain…. 
This is my highest weight since 2011.


Breakfast: this involved a weight watchers lemon yoghurt – WOW This tasted exactly like the icing on those Mr Kipling Lemon sponge cakes!! Delicious!!

Lunch: the shop didn’t have the wholemeal wraps but the nearest thing was best of both wraps so I had four of these, with diced ham (needed using up) then two had diced cucumber (I am not a fan of cucumber!!) and the other two had shredded carrot. Only 3 eaten as was too full.

Dinner involved the chinese style chicken noodle soup, I forgot to take pictures butit was   yummy, however I will NOT be putting spring onion in next time as I really do not like it. The chicken in the soup I fried off before adding to the soup and added the Heinz (fish free) Worcestershire Sauce and it was actually really flavourfull!

However I do have a picture of me making the soup!

I was also a tad naughty and ate my last wrap from lunch! No point in wasting it is there !?!


I was off work today, I am still suffering from being ill so I had a slight lie in, then had to run to the post office to collect a parcel before it closed and I completely forgot breakfast.

Lunch involves four ginger biscuits!! My sugars were low from running around and not fueling myself, a mistake I won’t make again!!

Dinner was my roasted veg soup, I went for the first batch I made whilst the wife took the second  batch. Mine was lovely, the wifes’ was way to Parsnip flavoured, meaning I need to cook more veg to add to it as we have another two portions of it!! I had two kingsmill wholemeal thins with a bit of butter (these are also clogging up the freezer) Dessert was a strawberry weight watchers yoghurt, this was also really nice and low calorie compared to other yoghurts!! Will definitely carry on buying these!!


Yoghurt thrown in bag for breakfast, didn’t get a chance to eat it!! Work waits for nobody, my job doesn’t involve an office or sitting down in order to eat.


Lunch was KFC!! Sometimes workmates and work location mean you grab what is available!! My lunch for today will last until tomorrow!!


To be continued!!

Stacie-Mai xx

Plan B going well …….. so far

So plan B is full steam ahead!!

We have made

My roasted veg soup in four VERY LARGE tubs ready for freezing.

Chicken noodle soup in two large batches for either freezing or for tomorrow evening, we haven’t quite decided as of yet.

Two portions of chicken in a smoky barbeque sauce, this will also be frozen.

More soup is to be made at some point soon.

Stacie-Mai xx

Plan B….

So I haven’t been very goal orientated lately, even after my last optimistic post.

I have been hit by some sort of cold/infection/chesty type bug so had to cancel yet another hospital appointment with my Gynecology Consultant. 

I have rearranged the appointment and I have just under 4 weeks to get my BMI from its current 37.6 to a first goal of 35 but with an ultimate goal of 30 for the complete go ahead for my fertility treatment. 



Me and the wife have sat down and planned our meals for the week ahead. I will also be undertaking these 30 day challenges through apps and attempting to undertake extra exercise. 

This is my last week to get organised before I start my new job! So lots of change this month set to happen!

The new filofax is purchased and on its’ way!!

For the sake of my sanity and moving on in life, I need children! I need a family. 

I have to get my act together!! And keep it together. With NO TEMPTATION.


Be prepared for recipies and lots of food pictures! Yes it may be annoying and you may not like people that upload images all the time but please remember this is how some of us motivate and feel like they can help others in similar situations.


Stacie-Mai xx


Hello there! Been a while. Here is something else to moan about….of course this is what we humans do best.

Anyone out there with sleep troubles? I am sick of them. It is one thing after another at present….

Last night went to sleep at 5:30AM – it was light outside!!

The night before 4:45AM and the days, oh wait week before I Lost count of the early morning bedtimes.

I think I am starting to annoy my wife. I am bad tempered, fatigued, clumsy, putting the lbs back on and blimey am I grumpy.

Negative feelings and damn right horrible thoughts are going through my mind with regards to

  • Weight
  • Babies and not being able to have them due to my weight
  • Injuries and illness
  • Financial situation
  • Family

So many issues running through my mind and where to start?

Maybe it is a combination of stress that has finally built up. Maybe it is my bodies way of telling me to take a break, or perhaps an issue that is ongoing where my body is trying to tell me something??

Who knows?

All I know is that I wish I could finally have a normal sleep pattern after years of positive and negative phases of sleep.


Stacie-Mai xx

This thing they call PCOS

At present PCOS defines me….                             

It was first mentioned when I snuck to the shops but actually went to the doctor secretly at 15. 9 years later I let this rule me, and it is slowly taking over.

The NHS defines PCOS as:

Polycystic ovary syndrome (PCOS) is a common condition that affects how a woman’s ovaries work.

PCOS affects millions of women in the UK.

The three main features of the condition are:

  • cysts that develop in your ovaries (polycystic ovaries)
  • your ovaries do not regularly release eggs (ovulate)
  • having high levels of “male hormones” called androgens in your body

You will usually be diagnosed with PCOS if you have at least two of these features.

Those 3 bullet points….I TICK ALL THREE!!

I have had one surgical procedure (private through health insurance, I refused to wait 18 months)and was due another but doctors decided to wait it out instead.

My last period : 23rd February 2015

Difficulty getting pregnant: very now due to same sex marriage but before I was in relationships which never resulted in pregnancy. There was one possible pregnancy, I say possible because I suffered symptoms of a miscarriage after a + pregnancy test but before confirming with my Doctor.

Excessive Hair growth……The worst thing in my life. The face is the worst!!!! Any tips on dealing with this I would be greatful. With my job I can only shave before work and after, when realistically I need to shave two more times during shift. I pluck sometimes but I barely get through any of it as it takes so long and my eyes hurt and oh the headaches!! I cannot focus that long on my chin, neck and face!! I could go on and on about hair growth but I will stop here!!

Weight gain!! I use to be 10 stone, then just under three years with my ex boyfriend, working in retail and eating out = 4 stone weight gain!! I use to have an eating disorder and went down to 6 stone before coming to my senses!! But since 14 stone I have gone uo and down to 18 stone if not 19. So working in kg now I am 102, was 104.5 a week and a half ago but due to food poisoning I lost 5kg and put on a couple when I started getting better. 102kg is my starting point again.

My IVF goal is a BMI of 30, I need to be about 80KG and need to achieve this ASAP!! but this is a huge stuggle for me. 

My hair has always been thick but I have developed thinning on the hair line, not so much of an issue at present but my hair falls out so much now. More than my dogs hair!!

I was never a massively spotty teenager, had the odd spot here and there but its more of an issue now, not as bad as others but it bothers me!!


There is no cure!! Some people do stop their symptoms through changing their lifestyle but deep down it does not get rid of the condition.

I know I could make a huge effort to change my lifestyle but equally I am not as well equipt with knowledge as I think I am!!
The two pictures on this post are courtesy of NHS Choices.

Stacie-Mai xx